Nehpets...For you to say such a Powerful Thing makes me want to stand up and applaud you…MOST men would never admit to needed help for such lustful feelings…Let me say this…Appreciate what you have…Find in yourself What your girl of 14 years sees in you…Lust is a strong desire a person has for another person…revisit what it was that initially attracted you to the woman you’re with now…or Leave her be!!!! Don’t allow yourself to keep hurting someone that believes in you and obviously loves you unconditionally… There may be something that she’s lacking to give you…I can pretty much guarantee there is a TRUST ISSUE with her and it causes her to doubt you and I’m sure it sparks arguments within the home…But Nephets YOU and ONLY YOU can turn that around…where are you meeting these women you’re lusting over??? You can’t keep hurting your girl because you have issues within yourself…SET HER FREE if this is a behavior you can’t control. You’re not the first and surely won’t be the last…Reach out to your higher power and truly pray over it…Sometimes loving someone is letting them go! Why aren’t you with these other women or woman you cheated on your girl with…I can give you one of two reason: 1- They are not going to put up with the BS you’re giving your girl OR 2- they aren’t as GOOD as your girl…I commend you dude, real talk…However at this point you have to stop think about SELF and realize how your behavior affects those that really deserve better including the kids…Do the right thang.

And let me say this nehpets…women go thru it too…Like I’ve stated on numerous occasions I’ve hurt many good people due to lusting over men that weren’t worth the time of day…But it comes a time in your life ‘when you’re hurting people more than making them happy especially someone you SAY you Love…it’s time to take a look at the type of person you are…Maybe this is a learned behavior…I know with me I had been hurt so many times I wanted others to feel my Pain…But then I realized that With Life comes Pain so I stop using it as an excuse and using it to GROW and MATURE…People will hurt you and usually the ones closest to you… LUST is very Powerful that’s why so many homes are destroyed by cheating spouses or mates…some people NEVER get use to it…The word says “when I was a child I spoke as a child but now that I am a man I must put away my Childish ways” You will find that what you have done is started to take for GRANTED what you have…and maybe she has self esteem issues (I don’t know your girl so don’t take it personal) However, most women that keeps putting up with the Same BS from the Same man usually is dealing with issues of her own…and some feel like they can’t do any better or they get so complacent with a person it hard seeing yourself with someone else…once you get respect and control over yourself everything else will fall in place…You’ve created Life due to your Lustful ways and GOD created those precious children however with every circumstances comes consequences…

Dang Reddon...you want a job on the TL panel...lol...that's interesting coming from a man...I would think this is something all men experience in their lives at some point or another...questions for you Reddon as guy who has obviously dealt with 'jumpoffs' how did or when did you stop...assuming these women were married how did you feel sleeping with another mans wife?

Yeah I agree with that Reddon…It’s something about having children or anybody in that manner that LOOKS UP TO YOU…You have to be an example to somebody…I can remember when my youngest son saw his dad cheat on one of his girlfriends and my son was really hurt behind that cause he really liked this person…and he was only 11…I had to call his father to let him know the impact of what his actions caused…My sons really look up to their father so his behavior has a dramatic influence on them…It’s certain things kids just should not see…That’s why I don’t understand men with daughter mistreating women…Often time daughters find men just like their father…Life is about Growth so as long as you Grow from your mishaps and mistakes in Life things will be okay…I don’t judge people because I was always judged by the clothes I wore…But the men I dated…By the people I hung with…and by the places I hung out…However my character outweighed my appearance. I now have a conscience and I believe that what you do will get done to you…That’s the law of the universe and there is no way around it.

nehpets I see the lust has gotten you a little dyslexic..lol. As harsh as reddon sounded, he is absolutely right. And then for him to 'grow up' and see how the consequences of his behavior could effect his children is commendable. Realize one thing, SELFISHNESS and being SELF CENTERED is one monster we all have to conquer. When we wake up and realize that we don't live our lives for ourselves we may start to live life more consciously. Yes, your son will grow up and so will your daughters...how would you want to continue your legacy and life cycle? Will it be one repetitious cycle of hurt and pain? You yourself probably didn't have a healthy example of love. But the more you get closer to God and he reveals to you what you need to change and conquer, you will see that your life doesn't have to continue in this perpetual cycle of pain...hurting those that love you. I will also pray for you and most definitely your wife. Men don't realize just how strong we are. We take the bullshit while men decide that it's all about them and what they want. One day you'll wake up and realize I shattered so many people's lives by my selfishness...WHO THE HELL DO I THINK I AM??

Well nehpets I must say you were very honest about it and you did admit it..but I just believe why be in a commented relationship if other people are involved ..just be by yourself and do as you please but if this woman is excepting your behavior and she knows what's going on with your CRAVING for other women then to each his own..I wish you the best with that one my friend ..

You must have a HOT A$$ date...(let me find out)...But I would say just the shirt and tie...The entire suit is too much!!! Unless you going to church or a funeral...I'mma need for you to relax a little...However a nice pair slack and a nice sweater or shirt without the tie is good...at that point the shoes must be nice...Regardless.

Let's put it this way...you impress people by your character and speech. The outward appearance gives people a perception. So how do you want to be perceived initially?...before you even open your mouth to speak? If this is a business encounter and we're talking about a corporate environment, a shirt and tie gives the perception that you want to support (like start the bottom and work your way up)...but add the suit jacket and your perception is CEO. If this is casual (like a date) then lose the suit and tie. Do like Tore said, nice slacks, a button up or sweater. Hope that helps!

Man up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ! I thought you were talking bout something...Suck it up!! Put some Vick Vapor rub under your nose...(it takes away that hungover feeling)...drink some beer or tomato juice...Eat...Eat ...Eat and then take a nap...you will be like new and ready to do it again tonight...IT's FRIDAY and you ain't got sh^it to do!